Relationships give us a sense of meaning:
Live a longer, happier life.
You may be surprised to hear, much of our happiness is tied to social interactions and personal relationships. Personal relationships give us a sense of purpose and belonging. As humans we are social animals, seeking to interact and support each other.
Personal relationships are so important to us, having stronger relationships can give you a 50% higher survival rate. As people with healthier relationships generally have more positive influences and support.
Having strong relationships and connectedness with people does take work. But it is worth it and gets easier. Our mission is to help take the work out of managing relationships so you can focus on the fun parts. And we have some tips to share!
Personal relationships are so important to us, having stronger relationships can give you a 50% higher survival rate. As people with healthier relationships generally have more positive influences and support.
Having strong relationships and connectedness with people does take work. But it is worth it and gets easier. Our mission is to help take the work out of managing relationships so you can focus on the fun parts. And we have some tips to share!
Relationships as plants:
After the relationship seeds have been planted, they need to be nurtured to grow. Much like gardening it is helpful to take stock of all of your relationships. Which do you want to invest more in?
Tips for helping them grow:
1: Be Consistent
Part of a strong relationship is consistency, people we can count on. Your closest relationships will be there when you need them, they won't bail on you and they will be the same person.
Be consistent for your relationships you wish to grow. Don't be flakey!
If your friends or family need you, be there.
If you say you are going to do something or be somewhere, be there.
Your friends and family expect you to be you, dont surprise them as someone different.
Much like plants, watering your relationships should be consistent. If you touch base every week or month, keep that up. You can set yourself calendar reminders to reach out to certain people. Or Popple can help remind you when to water relationships.
Be consistent for your relationships you wish to grow. Don't be flakey!
If your friends or family need you, be there.
If you say you are going to do something or be somewhere, be there.
Your friends and family expect you to be you, dont surprise them as someone different.
Much like plants, watering your relationships should be consistent. If you touch base every week or month, keep that up. You can set yourself calendar reminders to reach out to certain people. Or Popple can help remind you when to water relationships.
2: Be Genuine
Being genuine may be harder than you think. We all wear masks. But having strong relationships is taking off that mask and being vulnerable at times--which can be terrifying.
Having that mask on prevents people from knowing the true us. Showing people the true us improves relationships, and is less work to maintain. It also invites the other person to do the same.
Having that mask on prevents people from knowing the true us. Showing people the true us improves relationships, and is less work to maintain. It also invites the other person to do the same.
How to be Genuine?
Give your opinion when asked. Your rue opinion. Offer your opinion as a perspective not as fact if it differs from the other person. This can open up a dialogue versus closing doors. Even if unpopular it can help build a stronger connection through dialog.
Be yourself. Not who others expect you to be. We can feel compelled to live up to other people’s expectations. Set your own goals and path. If you are genuinely excited about where your going your relationships will support you.
Take Responsibility. Dont blame others. Mistakes or poor judgements happen. Dont blame someone else or circumstances. Taking ownership, and admitting when a mistake was made increases trust, reliability and makes it OK for the other person to do the same.
Dont pass judgements. We instinctively and subconsciously make judgements. Its part of our survival instincts. But it can prevent the other person from being genuine. And most of what we may judge about, doesn’t really impact our lives. Instead see this as an opportunity to learn why and encourage them to be genuine to their true self.
Be yourself. Not who others expect you to be. We can feel compelled to live up to other people’s expectations. Set your own goals and path. If you are genuinely excited about where your going your relationships will support you.
Take Responsibility. Dont blame others. Mistakes or poor judgements happen. Dont blame someone else or circumstances. Taking ownership, and admitting when a mistake was made increases trust, reliability and makes it OK for the other person to do the same.
Dont pass judgements. We instinctively and subconsciously make judgements. Its part of our survival instincts. But it can prevent the other person from being genuine. And most of what we may judge about, doesn’t really impact our lives. Instead see this as an opportunity to learn why and encourage them to be genuine to their true self.
3: Be Present
Life is go go go, and we all think of ourselves as master multitaskers. The secret is we are not great multitaskers and it is good to slow down and invest more of yourself.
Multitasking is really stopping and starting many tasks. Having to stop, pivot, ramp up and go all over again. We are not in a state of flow in any task. We are also not present, anticipating the next switch or trying to recall what we were last doing.
Being present is not recapping historical events or trying to anticipate the future potential outcomes. It is being 100% invested in what you are doing and who with. The below tips can help:
Multitasking is really stopping and starting many tasks. Having to stop, pivot, ramp up and go all over again. We are not in a state of flow in any task. We are also not present, anticipating the next switch or trying to recall what we were last doing.
Being present is not recapping historical events or trying to anticipate the future potential outcomes. It is being 100% invested in what you are doing and who with. The below tips can help:
- Take a few deep breathes. Breathe in through your mouth and out through your nose. Through your nose slows the process down and creates a relaxation feeling.
- What are you doing? That should be all you are thinking about. If a thought about paying bills or picking up the kids comes to mind, recognize it and let it go if it is not what you want to focus on.
- Keep the phone away. Companies and apps spend a lot of energy figuring out how to keep you engaged, its their livelihood. However, engaged in anything but interacting is a distraction.
Bring it all in
To reap the health benefits of having relationships, we need to focus on the strength of the relationships not the quantity of them. Avoid focusing on likes and followers, instead focus on the one on one connectedness.
To drive strong relationships we need to consistently water our relationships, we need to be open to vulnerabilities and show up.
Popple is a personal relationship manager to help you remember to water your relationships, pick up where you left off and to not forget the details. Let us help, so you can focus on what matters.
To drive strong relationships we need to consistently water our relationships, we need to be open to vulnerabilities and show up.
Popple is a personal relationship manager to help you remember to water your relationships, pick up where you left off and to not forget the details. Let us help, so you can focus on what matters.